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Am I being difficult?
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The other day, Keith asked if I wanted to eat our tacos outside at the picnic tables. I got out of the car. Felt the cold. Said no. A complete, uncomplicated answer. Then I saw a family sitting outside, apparently having a lovely time, and my mind called an emergency meeting. Am I being difficult? Over fucking tacos. I caught myself halfway through putting my own no on trial. And I thought: well, there’s a familiar little trick. For years, I was excellent at consulting everyone else before I consulted myself. I’ve spent the last four years undoing that. Yet there I was, considering whether a stranger’s ability to eat tacos outdoors meant I should override my own body. Now take that pattern into a bedroom. That’s where Barbara and I went in this week’s episode of The Sensual Sisterhood Podcast. And the conversation about consent got a whole lot more interesting than “Did she say yes?” When you’ve listened, hit reply and tell me what landed. The taco story counts, but there’s a lot more in this one. Listen to Episode 40: Consent Is the Dirty Talk: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed Love, P.S. If you’re ready to practice wanting what you want in a room full of women doing the same, get on the First to Know list for FUCK YES >> |
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