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Wet doesn't mean yes. Dry doesn't mean no.
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There's a moment a lot of women know and almost nobody talks about. Your body and your desire disagree. Sometimes your body is saying yes while the rest of you is quietly backing toward the door. Sometimes it's the reverse. You want him, you've wanted him all day, and your body just doesn't show up. And instantly, court is in session. Which one is telling the truth? What does this say about me? About him? About us? About my age? Most of us were handed a ridiculously simple rulebook for this. Wet means want. Dry means don't. Orgasm means you loved it. We've run our erotic lives on it for decades, and it was wrong the whole time. Barbara and I tore that rulebook up on this week's episode. We get into:
Listen to Episode 42: Wet Doesn't Mean Yes. Dry Doesn't Mean No. A heads-up: part of this conversation touches on bodies responding during experiences that weren't wanted. We hold it with care. Listen when you have room for it. Then hit reply and tell me: what did you grow up believing your body's response meant? And who taught you that? Marta (& Barbara) P.S. Want to talk about this with women who get it? That's what The Sensual Sisterhood is for. Come play: https://www.skool.com/be-marvelus/about |
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For women over 40 who are done being the responsible one and ready to be the turned-on one. Letters on desire, pleasure and erotic self-trust, straight from my body to your inbox. Come in.
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