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I used to say I wasn’t a girl’s girl
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I used to say it like it was a badge of honor.
I’m not a girl’s girl. I’m better with men. Less judgment. Less scorekeeping. Less drama.
And underneath all of that? Women had hurt me. I had been judged, sized up, talked about, and made to feel unsafe. So I learned to keep women close enough for friendship, but far enough away that they couldn’t see the parts of me I was trying desperately to keep hidden. The hurt was real. But the conclusion I drew from it wasn’t formed in a vacuum. Because a woman who doesn’t trust other women is easier to isolate. That’s the part we don’t talk about enough. I was proud of being a lone wolf. I was the strong one. The capable one. The woman everyone else called when their life went sideways. I didn’t call them. I could handle it. And for a very long time, I mistook that for freedom. In this week’s episode of The Sensual Sisterhood Podcast, Barbara and I talk about why so many women learned not to trust other women, who benefits when we remain isolated, and the difference between having support and actually being witnessed. We also tell the story of the day we met 👀 Picture a room full of women in lingerie, quietly making vision boards to classical music. And then picture Barbara in the middle of that room, kicking, screaming, and giving everyone the finger. Nobody shamed her. That moment taught both of us something profound: You can tell the truth with your whole body and remain connected. And if you’ve spent decades editing yourself so other people will stay, that experience changes you. 🎙️ Listen to Episode 39: Why Midlife Women Don’t Trust Other Women (And Who Benefits) 👉 YouTube >> Then hit reply and tell me: Where do you still edit yourself around other women? I read every response. Marta (& Barbara) P.S. You don’t need fifteen new girlfriends. You need the right room. That’s why Barbara and I created The Sensual Sisterhood. You can join us for free here: https://www.skool.com/be-marvelus/about |
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For women over 40 who are done being the responsible one and ready to be the turned-on one. Letters on desire, pleasure and erotic self-trust, straight from my body to your inbox. Come in.
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