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Why the f*ck am I still doing this?
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Here's a very particular kind of maddening. You catch yourself mid-pattern. Saying yes when you meant no. Swatting away something lovely someone just said about you. Talking yourself out of a want before it's even finished arriving. And you're not confused about it. You could walk a stranger through the whole thing: where it came from, what it protects, why it stopped serving you years ago. You can see it clearly. You did it anyway. If you're anything like me, your next move is to go get more information. A better book. A new modality. One more explanation, sharp enough that the pattern finally gives up and leaves. Barbara and I spent this week's episode pulling that move apart. Because when a smart woman keeps doing the thing she fully understands, more understanding is rarely what's missing. We get into:
Listen to Episode 41: You Know Better. So Why Are You Still Doing It? Then hit reply and tell us: what's the pattern you can explain perfectly and still repeat? XO, P.S. If you want company while you practice, that's what The Sensual Sisterhood is for. Come play: https://www.skool.com/be-marvelus/about P.P.S. Want first dibs on FUCK YES, the deepest room I hold? Early access goes to the First to Know list: https://marvelus.kit.com/fck-yes |
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For women over 40 who are done being the responsible one and ready to be the turned-on one. Letters on desire, pleasure and erotic self-trust, straight from my body to your inbox. Come in.
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